Are you a person of the gay community and confused about certain types of flags? In this post, I will discuss the panromantic flag and other LGBTQIA+ pride flags.
There are so many genders, categories of persons, and sexualities that you can easily confuse labels of people. It wasn’t till recently that I learned about panromantic, demisexual, and pansexual. And so in this blog post, I will talk about the panromantic flag and other pride flags.
Panromantic flag & other LGBTQI+ flags
The colors of the panromantic flag are red, yellow, and blue. The meaning of panromantic is an attraction to someone without looking at sex or gender. It won’t matter if the person is male, female, or of any other gender or sexuality. With that being said a panromantic person isn’t attracted to everyone. They don’t kiss and hook up with anyone. Being panromantic means that you don’t have a specific preference for the types of people you’re romantically attracted to.
PANSEXUAL FLAG
The pansexual flag is similar to the panromantic flag. Both flags share the same red, yellow, and blue colors. The only difference is that the pansexual flag doesn’t have a heart. Panromantic is not the same as pansexual. Pansexual means being physically and romantically attracted to all genders. As I mentioned above panromantic persons are romantically attracted to persons, but not always sexually, whereas pangender persons can have a sexual or romantic attraction to persons.
ASEXUAL FLAG
The asexual flag has four colors: black, grey, white, and purple. Asexuality means not having a sexual attraction. Asexuals do enjoy kissing and touching but not really interested in sex with other people.
PANROMANTIC ASEXUAL FLAG
The panromantic asexual flag is a combination of the panromantic flag and the asexual flag so it has 6 different colors. The meaning of panromantic asexual is a romantic attraction to someone without any type of sexual attraction. I don’t consider myself panromantic asexual but I’ve actually experienced deep connections with individuals without having any type of sexual desires.
GENDERFLUID FLAG
The genderfluid has pink which represents feminine energy and blue which represents masculine energy. Just based on those colors alone we can define genderfluid which is not having a specific gender. Someone who’s genderfluid has a gender that is different from their biological sex and can change at any time.
ARMONANTIC FLAG
The aromantic flag is not as colorful as the other flags listed above. The concept of aromantic is something I’m honestly trying to grab. Aromantic means having not having a romantic attraction. An aromantic person can form friendships with other people but struggle with romance.
DEMISEXUAL FLAG
The demisexual flag has the colors white which represents sexuality, purple which represents community, and black and gray which represents asexuality. A demisexual is a person attracted to someone else based on emotional connection.
DEMISEXUAL PANROMANTIC FLAG
A panromantic demisexual is someone who’s romantically attracted to someone else. There is no sexual attraction unless there is an emotional connection. So even if a guy is smoking hot a panromantic won’t feel a genuine attraction to that person unless they connect on a deep level.
I’m not pan-romantic but do consider myself demisexual. I love intellectual conversations and so if you can’t provide that to me I won’t truly desire you no matter how physically attractive you are.
WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PANSEXUAL AND PANROMANTIC?
There is a difference between panromantic and pansexual. A panromantic is romantically attracted to all types of people. However, a pansexual has sexual attractions for all types of people. Romantic attraction and sexual attraction are very different.
What does romantic attraction feel like? This type of attraction happens when you open your heart and soul to someone. This attraction is basically connecting with someone emotionally. Thus, you’re drawn to a person even if that person has traits or qualities that you dislike about them. This type of connection is most necessary for a long-term relationship.
On the other hand, sexual attraction feels mostly physical. In a forum moderated by psychologist Kimberly Claudat, it’s mentioned that sexual attraction “feels like a knot in your stomach”.
Do you understand the difference between sexual attraction and romantic attraction now? If you still don’t picture this. If you meet someone that you enjoy having sex that would definitely be considered a sexual attraction. You may even have romantic feelings for that person. If however, you can not connect with that person on a deep emotional level and you’re only looking to hookup then that would be strictly a romantic attraction.
WHY IT CAN BE DIFFICULT BEING A PANROMANTIC DEMISEXUAL?
It can be extremely difficult being a panromantic demisexual, especially in the gay community. I absolutely love my gay brothers. The gay community has a big hookup culture and as a whole, we focus too much on physical appearance. Social media and hookup apps are filled with people posing seductively and in half-naked poses. The hookup has made it hard for demisexual people to find intimate partners, especially with men. Despite this phenomenon, demisexuals can find true love if they are strategic.
HOW TO FIND A PARTNER AS A PANROMANTIC DEMISEXUAL
Dating online and offline is not easy. As outlined by the Demisexuality Resource Center here are some tips to date as a demisexual:
- Be open about your identity. Whether we admit it or not many of us wear social masks. Many of us put on to please people and to protect ourselves from getting hurt. This is especially true when dating. If you’re trying to meet someone you must take off that social mask and be your authentic self. On certain dating apps like OkCupid and Match.com, you can identify yourself as demisexual or asexual. By being upfront with you are you can attract similar personalities to you.
- Form a friendship first. Honestly, I believe all relationships should begin with a friendship. Yes, my mama taught me well. By becoming friends with your potential partner you can truly enjoy each other’s company.
- Be intentional. There is dating with intention and dating to just have fun. By dating with the intention you set a goal for yourself. This will make it more likely to choose a partner that suits your interests and tastes.
- Be patient. You should always take things slow when dating. First impressions are not always lasting impressions. Over time people will show their true colors. Always remember that.
- Ask questions. Find out more about who the person is rather than their education level, their finances, or their interest in the Real Housewives. By the second or third date, you should know what their life goals are, their views on marriage, and their beliefs/values.
WRAP UP
Going out to gay bars and gay hangout spots have expanded my mind on the LGBTQ community.
There are different types of genders and identities in 2020 as I listed above. There are more than 40 sexualities and 50 genders: this includes pangender which are persons that can not be labeled as male or female, abrosexual which are persons that changes their sexual orientation over time, two-spirit 2s which are persons that have both a feminine and masculine spirit, skoliosexual which are persons attracted to transgender or nonbinary persons, sapiosexual which are persons attracted to someone based on intelligence, and the list goes on.
By being aware of this information we can learn to be more accepting of different types of individuals. If you are of the LGBTQIA community you can find the panromantic flag for sale on Amazon and other LGBTQIA+ flags at Pride Nation.
